Monday, April 13, 2015

I'm still here!

This past year has been rather busy, adjusting to a new baby, homeschooling and well...just learning how to keep house with 4 small children! I feel like I can breathe again now that the baby is older, sleeping well and a bit more independent.

I have some posts in the works, so stay tuned from something new soon. :)

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

How My Husband Simplified Housekeeping for Me

Housekeeping has never been something I've been good at accomplishing consistently. Even while growing up, my room would become a royal disaster and it would take me all day to clean it up. The only time in my life I have been able to stay consistent is when I was in college and threatened with dorm demerits if anything was out of place or my bed wasn't made. I will devote another post to how God has brought me along in this area, but I wanted to share how my husband simplified my housekeeping routine.

We currently live in an RV, so space is limited. We have 4 young children and they do know how to make a mess! I have tried keeping the place in order, have succeeded here and there but it always seems to end back up in a huge mess. Last week, I was very overwhelmed. Dishes piled up, mess everywhere, hard to walk without tripping on something. It was not good. I tried but it seemed I was working in circles with no end in sight and the place wasn't looking any better! I was depressed and just wanting to get away by myself. But of course, doing so would just mean coming back to the mess.

On Sunday, I asked to have a chat with my husband after church while the children napped. I shared my struggles and feelings with him. He gently told me how I was trying to look at the whole picture of how our little abode should look instead of breaking it all down into little steps that were very reasonable. He wrote out a step-by-step plan and it is wonderful! I am on day 3 of following his suggested plan and it is working great! There are areas that need decluttering still, but it is coming along and the atmosphere is much happier! Because of it, this mama feels energetic and more joyful! So, what was the suggested plan?
  • Do dishes after each meal. Until caught up, do 7 extra dishes along with the dishes used for that meal.
  • 3 times a day, spend 20 minutes straightening as much as you can. Spend 5 minutes of the 2nd and 3rd cleaning going over the areas you previously straightened.
  • Stay off the computer until the post-meal dishes and straightening is finished. (Sigh. He does know me well!)
  • Add in projects/cleaning/homeschooling to the routine
It is still a work in progress but I am so very thankful for my husband's love and support.  While this all sounds very simple, it made a world of difference for this overwhelmed and tired mama! This is very flexible, sometimes a nursing baby makes his demands known but I can just pick up where I've left off. Also, an added benefit to staying off the computer more? I am more focused and thus more patient with my children! I am thankful for a Godly, loving husband who cares about me and gently leads me alongside him.

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Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Lessons from Beans

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Yesterday was one of those days. One of those not-so-fun days. The day started out well with breakfast, getting my husband off to work, reading the Bible with the children and the normal morning routine. Then, I had a scheduled phone call. I had instructed the children to be quiet and they were. At the time, anyway. My daughter was coloring in her room, my oldest son was writing random letters and my younger son was entertaining himself. During the phone call, the younger son, who is 21 months, decided to empty a bag of dried beans. No big deal, they were keeping him quiet so I could talk. Until my oldest son decided to go join him. Oh, he was having fun. Running through the beans. Picking up handfuls of beans and throwing them. Beans everywhere! I got off the phone and very sternly instructed my children to pick up of those beans. They dawdled, worked ever so slowly. I lost it and the worst of me came out. More than once. For 2-3 hours they worked in the same little square on the floor, getting nowhere. No amount of anything I said motivated them. I was nearly in tears. I wished I could trade places with my husband. Placing orders, answering the phone, dealing with customers, all sounded so relaxing.

And then, while doing dishes, conviction really set in. I began to think about those mothers who would dearly love to be spending even that kind of day with a child or children, but couldn't because they had died. I also soberly thought, what if something happened and God decided to take the children because of my bad attitude? I would forever look back on this day and regret even desiring a break from them. Finally, the more I was upset, the worse it made my day seem. Whenever my attitude is bad, it seems to saturate the entire atmosphere of the home. It was my doing that I was having a bad day! Sure, the children made a mess.

But it is just beans.
Just silly old beans.

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Scattered beans are very small in comparison to the hearts of my children. My mission as a mother is to teach them and train them in the ways of the Lord. I failed yesterday. But praise the Lord for His mercies that are new every morning (Lamantations 3). Once the Lord  changed my heart attitude, it changed the rest of my day. Yes, the beans were still there, but Mommy had a different attitude. One of gentleness instead of harshness. Only by God's grace was I able to choose joy.

Tomorrow is a new day. May God give me grace to deal with circumstances with gentleness and yet firmness if needed. May God shine the Gospel to my children through my life.

As a side note, the beans did get picked up. After the children had their nap. It is amazing how much better they work when Mommy is not yelling and acting in ways that are not pleasing to the Lord! Also, we will be working on improving their work ethic. :)

Friday, August 15, 2014

About me

Welcome! My name is Naomi. I am a Christian, married to a wonderful husband and am a stay-at-home-mom with 4 young children. Life can be hectic at times but I wouldn't trade it for anything. I enjoy spending time with my little family.

I hope this blog can be an encouragement to someone. I hope to write on topics such as Christianity, natural living, natural remedies, homemaking, homeschooling and whatever else may come to mind.